MAKING BIG DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN FEEL SCARY!

You’ve had arguments, hard conversations and days of silence. But nothing changes. 
 
Maybe you’ve tried marriage counseling, one of those couples weekends or romantic dinners and date nights, but you’re left wondering if this relationship has any hope.
 
You don’t want to give up too soon, but you’re miserable. You don’t know if you get over the past hurts or trust your spouse again.

Introducing Stay, Wait or Go Coaching

One-on-one sessions and all the skills & tools you need to finally get off the fence. 

  • Porn, affairs and emotional cheating? We’ve got that covered.
  • Controllers, emotional abusers, and intimacy avoiders? On it.
  • Feel like you’ve grown apart and don’t have anything in common? Yup.
  • Financial priorities don’t match up? We can tackle that.
  • You’ve got an assistant, not a partner? Done.
  • Alcohol, gambling or other addiction? Check.

We usually only hear about 2 choices:  STAY or GO.

But for many, WAIT is a really valid option. Waiting with intention while you:

  • See if communicating in a new way and establishing boundaries can make a difference
  • Assess whether your partner is truly remorseful for their cheating and is doing what’s necessary to rebuild trust
  • Get counseling or support for yourself to address any unresolved issues
  • Prepare to re-enter the job market or get the education you need
  • Establish enough cash in an emergency fund
  • Research your finances and legal rights

IT'S TIME TO STEP UP YOUR MARRIAGE OR STOP MAKING REGRETS

It’s agonizing, this not knowing and second guessing. Maybe you:

  • Stayed for the kids, but now you wonder if that’s really best for them.
  • Thought you could get past the porn or the cheating, but it’s eating you up.
  • Never worried about money, but now you’re wondering how you’d support yourself.
  • Have been telling yourself that things will get better when… but they haven’t.
  • Keep busy with kids, friends, and projects to avoid loneliness.
  • Convince yourself it’s not as bad as some other people have it – you can deal with it.
  • Are living with a roommate who tolerates you instead of a partner who cherishes you.
  • Continually second guess yourself – thinking maybe it’s you or you’re expecting too much.

Can you imagine living like this for another 10, 20 or 30 years?

What if I told you that your future could be different?

You don’t have to continue to settle for a relationship that’s less than you need or a life that’s less you deserve.

I want to give you the insight and tools to improve your current relationship or the clarity and preparation to leave it. No more sitting on the fence. No more indecision or suffering.

Honestly, I feel your pain. I lived that way for over a decade until the day I took dinner out of the oven and left. Ask me about that story if we ever get a chance to talk!

I finally made a decision to decide. And I chose myself.

I’m not saying that divorce is the right choice for you, but I do understand that feeling stuck feels miserable.  It might seem hard to believe, but actually getting off that fence and making a choice one way or the other will feel like freedom.

That is exactly why I love helping you make the hardest decision. So you can:

Stay Strong, Wait with Intention or Go with a Plan.

What Clients Say About Their Experience...

Yea, I know. There aren’t pictures here. And, full disclosure, some of these names are fake. Often clients don’t want their partners to know they’ve worked with me. Confidentially rules here, but they did want you to know how life-changing the program was for them.

"Rebuilding your life or reinforcing a faulty foundation requires hard work, smart strategies, and compassionate coaching. When you are ready to start living again, REALLY LIVING, why waste another minute or lose one more year of your precious life? Call Debra."
Kristy
"Debra is fearless, willing to say the difficult stuff and not dance around uncomfortable issues.  In her direct, firm and loving way, she points you to the deep stuff within that you need to look at for true progress and healing.  She is also able to empathize without judgement which really gave me a sense of safety and trustworthiness."
Angela
"Debra has excellent listening skills and discernment which gives her great bullshit detection ability - you won't get away with glossing over anything.  She is also patient, kind and non-judgemental which is exactly what you need while you sort through this hard decision."
Tammy

THE STAY, WAIT OR GO PROCESS

Every relationship is unique. These are just a few of the issues we might tackle as you work through your own personal decision. Our goal is to eliminate any obstacles getting in the way of your clarity.

Change Readiness

Every big decision requires change. We can explore your approach, tolerance and readiness for change.

Relationship Audit

Want to dig deep into what is and isn't working and assess your chances of getting what you need?

Emotional Inventory

Fear, obligation, guilt and grief are the 4 common emotions that tell us lies and stop us from moving forward.

Speak Up, Get Heard

Whether you choose to Stay, Wait or Go, clearly stating your needs and creating boundaries is critical to your well-being.

Security & Safety

It's always a good time to talk about the future and money. Feeling safe requires having knowledge and a plan.

Next Steps & Strategy

Once you have a clearer picture where you're headed, we'll strategize and create a plan so you can take the next right steps.

PUT AN END TO INDECISION

DITCH CONFUSION.

Don’t waste another day wondering, worrying or making more regrets.

You can decide to Step Up your marriage or Stop wasting your time.

Dive in, make a decision, get on with your life.

Schedule a Consultation and Let's Talk!

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