Divorce Coach: Helping Clients Stress Less and Save
Let’s not sugar coat stuff here. Divorce sucks. But, working with a divorce coach can make it suck a little less and even cost a little less.
The Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale ranks divorce as the #2 most stressful life event that you can experience – second only to death of a spouse.
Divorce means everything about life as you’ve known it is changing.
And that can be frightening. Especially when you don’t understand the process or your options. And if you’re afraid, angry or overwhelmed (or all three), you may not be doing your best thinking. The emotional toll of divorce can make smart people do not-so-smart things.
Read more here about how your lizard brain can make you crazy during divorce. Truth is that fear causes stress. So, what can you do to manage the fear and stress of divorce?
I say this so often I feel like I should get a tattoo, but I’ll keep saying it because it’s true.
The antidote to fear is knowledge.
And that is exactly where divorce coaching comes to the rescue.
What a Divorce Coach Does
A personal divorce coach walks right along side you holding your hand (even though it might be virtual) to guide you through the murky waters of divorce. You wouldn’t take off on an African safari without hiring a guide to help you navigate the unseen dangers, but many people jump into divorce on their own. Or they rely on their $400/hr attorney for every need.
A CDC Certified Divorce Coach® coach will prepare you for the process, help you manage your emotions, improve your resiliency and set you on a course to confidently manage life on your own.
Check out this article from Divorce Magazine that explains more about the benefits of adding a divorce coach to your team.
Could you use help with:
- Deciding if divorce is right for you?
- Avoiding the 6 biggest mistakes in divorce?
- Making the best possible decisions for your future – with confidence?
- Understanding the short-term and long-term financial impact of your options?
- Saving money by being a prepared client when meeting with your attorney, accountant, financial planner or realtor?
- Communicating directly so you are heard and can get what you need?
Or what about?
- Learning to avoid getting your buttons pushed and co-parent like a boss?
- Planning and budgeting for the new life you deserve?
- Staying on track for legal paperwork and deadlines?
- Crunching the numbers to create the data you need to make decisions?
- Encouragement to take the high road and behave in a way you’ll be proud to look back on?
- Coping with challenges like job changes, post-divorce dating and co-parenting?
The American Bar Association lists divorce coaching as one of the most common dispute resolution processes and says:
“Divorce coaching is a flexible, goal oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns.”
Does a Divorce Coach Replace My Lawyer?
No. A divorce coach doesn’t replace your family law attorney, but works on your team along with them. You’ll still need to consult with a lawyer for legal specifics, but you can prep with your coach – who is likely more accessible and charges a much lower hourly rate. Bonus for you! Your attorney will appreciate having direction and priorities from you. Because when you know what you want and can communicate that clearly, then your lawyer can do their job more effectively. Another score for you.
Town & Country Magazine’s recent article “The T&C Guide to Divorce: The 5 People You Need on Your Team” lists a divorce coach as a one of the key players people should consider adding to their team during divorce.
In states that support Collaborative Divorce, you and your spouse may each have your own divorce coach, in contrast to a financial neutral, parenting coordinator or mediator that you share.
How I Help
As a CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® I have the training and experience to help you navigate your divorce and make the best decisions you can. If you’d like to know more about me, check out my bio here.
You’re not destined to feel powerless at the hands of attorneys or your soon-to-be ex. You can be prepared, informed and feel in control even in the midst of divorce. Does that mean I can guarantee you will get everything you want from your divorce? Nope, I am not a magical genie or a unicorn. I can, however, ensure that you’re fully engaged in the process and making informed choices. And that’s a win-win!
Working together one-on-one, you’ll get the support, guidance and tools you need to be the boss of your divorce. I’m not saying that it will be easy, but I am saying that you can handle it!
Find Out More
Divorce can feel scary and overwhelming, but you absolutely do not have to do it alone.
I offer a Complimentary Consultation so you can get to know me and get your questions answered. Click here for direct access to my calendar and let’s chat. I’d love to find out where you’re struggling and see if divorce coaching can ease some of your stress.
Wishing you strength and wisdom,
P.S. In this day and age where anyone can hang out a shingle and call themselves a coach, I urge you to check the credentials of any coach you consider hiring – including me. You can find me on both the CDC and CDFA locators here and here.
